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  • Minke Tromp

    Administrator
    1 March 2020 at 20:41
    930 NTL Score
    Dearest member,

     

    I welcome you with all my heart. Thank you for your leap of faith to join us here.

    Let this become our haven.

     

    The place to grow like only Forward Thinkers can.

    In your email you will find a copy of our Code of Conduct. This allow us to be a community of inquiry and inspiration.

     

    Now, to begin, besides filling your profile, I would love to hear from you:

    How would you like to change your impact?

    And when you are not being realistic, how would you like your impact to be then? ; )

     

    The moderation team, the other members and myself are curious and would love to hear from you!

  • Marije Tiesjema

    Member
    2 March 2020 at 19:43
    2 NTL Score

    Hi, my name is Marije Tiesjema. For all my life I’ve wondered why things were the way they were. I saw better solutions all the time, but often found little to no understanding or willingness in other people to change the status quo. I was criticized regularly for asking confronting questions, having my own opinion and being unwilling to settle for illogical and often harmful situations.

    Sadly, over the years I kind of gave up and learnt to keep my mouth shut. But the last few years I re-invented myself and decided that I want to live life my way. I strive to use all of my talents to have a great impact for a better, fair world, in all social and environmental related ways that cross my path.

    My background is a degree in fundamental biomedical sciences and I have working experience in the development and design of educational websites, in e-learning and in photography. Currently I work in my own business where I use (nature) photography as a tool to help people gain personal insights for better decision making. I developed my own method called ‘Insight giving Photography’. My goal is to show our ratio-based society how to combine the talents of the subconscious with those of the conscious brain to create optimal strategies towards a beautiful and caring impact in the world around us.

    Please feel free to contact me if you would like to know more about one of my expertises or think that maybe I can be of help to optimize your ideas for a beautiful impact. I’m looking forward to your introductions!

  • Bart Driessen

    Member
    2 March 2020 at 22:28
    4 NTL Score

    I’m very excited to be part of a network of people that are proud to call themselves black sheep. I’ve always felt the odd one, already as a kid, often that made me sad and sometimes it made me proud.

    Patterns, ideas and solutions I recognize fast. A good sense for what is left unsaid. People often think that I dive in the pool before assessing the depth. At the same time I’m inpatient and I am slowly learning to wait for other people. Every quality that we have is also a pitfall. I slowly realized I feel comfortable at places without structure. Working with pioneers, making prototypes, drafts, experiments. When it starts to become something structured, I might want to move forward.

    For many years I have worked as a creative person, as a graphic designer. I designed many corporate identities, logos, campaigns, publications, CD covers, websites and books and I founded my own design studio that existed for about 20 years. And then I realized I can use my way of thinking as a creative person for so many other things – I became a design thinker. I solved logistic challenges in distributing aid goods in refugee camps in Greece by creating an app. For United Nations I worked on a method to let urban development people in slum areas in 75 countries collaborate and learn from each other. I helped a off grid solar power start-up becoming successful in Africa. And now I’m an interim CTO for a company in insurance inspections to speed up innovation and become a market leader by doing things smarter. I like playing a role of kickstarting things and then move on.

    I’m a generalist – a jack of all trades. Technology and innovation often plays a role, so does motivating and inspiring people to embrace tech and innovation. I prefer working in projects that create a better world, from the bottom up, participatory. I believe a better world is not about going back but about moving forward. I move back and forth from strategy to execution, iterations of thinking and doing, seeing both the big picture and the tiny details. An idea is nothing until its executed. That’s what links wisdom and impact for me.

    I’d be happy to brainstorm and share ideas and see if together we can make a dent in the universe!

    • Shreya Raj

      Member
      30 May 2021 at 10:49
      99 NTL Score

      wow,this is so amazing. I really like your thought process.

  • Lisethe

    Member
    5 March 2020 at 09:25
    0 NTL Score

    Dear members and team, it’s nice to be part of a community where your ideas and thoughts are welcome. Were it’s not odd. Where we try to understand each other so we can move forward.

    As a child a was a bystander, not able to play the games childeren were doing because of my Asthma. I was a thinker and a spectator, while I couldn’t understand how my family and friends behaved. The seed was planted to investigate what is moving an indivudual.

    Subjects as psychology, psychiatry and filosofy gave me lot of knowledge and I started working in mental health organizations. But my vision about people, and how cliënts really would be helped did not match in these companies. I decided to start working for people with a PGB and who also didn’t fit in a institution.

    Besides the western studies I practice yoga and studied yoga filosofy since 1991. And I’m teacher as well. My life was full of turning points and from 2018 again I had the drive to move on, forward. From this time I really want to have more impact, be there for more people who like to grow, develop personally. I’m still searching for the form, the structure, the words to support other people moving into happier, more relaxed and fulfilling lives.

    • Shreya Raj

      Member
      30 May 2021 at 10:54
      99 NTL Score

      Hey,nice to e-meet you. I think you have a lot to discover and think upon. Keep going. Even i am kicked upon by these questions sometimes, would definitely love to talk to you and know each other.

  • Miriam Zijp

    Member
    11 March 2020 at 14:06
    0 NTL Score

    Hi all, how to describe myself and the impact I dream to have? I was brought up very religious, those of you with a basic knowledge of bible stories will understand when I explain the core of who I am by using the two stories that have shaped me:

    – the parable of the talents: you have to use whatever you are given, work hard and take chances. Don’t play save, put yourself out there. Don’t hide your talents.

    – the story of the Good Samaritan: always help those in need, everyone is thy neighbour.

    I have from a very early age unconsciously and unconditionally shaped my life around those stories but the last years (I am 35 years old) I have realised that my inner drive to do so is based on an insecurity: am I doing enough? It never is enough. And it feels like I have to choose: give my attention to the world or to myself and my family; that I can’t do both.

    This is what I would like to change: I want to incorporate my drive and values with my inner self by knowledge. I think that by understanding more about myself and the world around me I can find a balance and that this will improve my impact because following my heart will be less hard on myself. Hopefully 🙂

    The reason why I have felt that I “don’t fit in” is because most people and books tell me to find the balance by taking better care of myself, to focus more on me instead of the world but this is not what I want or feel that is needed. I don’t need more mindfulness, I need knowledge and understanding.

    • Rosa Calandra

      Member
      13 March 2020 at 15:27
      1123 NTL Score

      Dear Miriam,

      thank you so much for sharing with us your stimulating and sensible introduction.

      What inspired me the most is when you mention the Good Samaritan: ” always help those in need, everyone is the neighbor.”

      I feel it can not be more true! In this historical and political moment we have to stick together, we have to use common sense, and share healthy impact!

      I know that you would like to start the first group course, and we are happy you are curious and positive about it. It might be a special moment to share participation, understanding and results. And I have the feeling it can be beneficial for the balance you are looking for 🙂

      Please keep us posted!

  • Rosa Calandra

    Member
    15 March 2020 at 13:46
    1123 NTL Score

    Good afternoon and happy Sunday to all of you !!!

    I would like to introduce myself; I am Rosa and I am the Moderator of the community 🙂

    You are probably wondering what I am doing here and how I got to know Minke and this stimulating & challenging project?

    Well, I’ll tell you (almost) everything about it . . .

    I am Italian, and beside the love for family and food, I love to travel and get to know the world, its people and the different and wonderful cultures.

    After my Bachelor’s degree, (in Philosophy) I started travelling and mixing with people & their culture . And that’s where the magic begins!

    I listened,observed, discovered, examined, contemplated, smelled not only the diversity that was around me, but at the same time I was studying my self as well. I was paying attention to the world and people around me, and how I mixed with them myself.

    And pretty soon I realized that, there was so much to learn and a lot to adjust within myself.

    In 2016 I started a Master’s in Amsterdam in Philosophy of Management and Organization. My key focus examined the importance of reflective thinking which involves both theoretical and practical level in the context of organization and management.

    Here I met Minke; calm, wise and with the desire to share.

    She was one of the 9 Philosophical Practitioners that I interviewed for my Master’s thesis, which consider the Socratic Dialogue as a tool in the system-life world.

    Socrates has always had a special place in my reflection on life, especially the Art of Questioning in search of Truth. And that’s what connect me to Minke today.

    After 4 years we met again, and asked me to be part of this project.

    I couldn’t feel more honored!

    Therefore, let’s cultivate interaction, communication and knowledge, finally we can do that!

    ” A person is a person through other persons.”

    • Fatima Annan

      Member
      22 February 2021 at 19:45
      0 NTL Score

      Good Afternoon!! I am very interested in your study and purpose as I am 30 years old and again discovered my love for philosophy which I wish to pursue and learn more about. I have similar interests to you and I am really looking forward to getting to know you more and work more with you! Regards!

    • Fatima Annan

      Member
      22 February 2021 at 19:51
      0 NTL Score

      In fact,I forgot to mention that everytime I express and tey to say something in the family they call me a philosopher, in the sarcastic manner, whereas I greatly believe my expressions, thoughts and insights are true and deep. I have noticed my love for philosophy when I read a book called Sophies World back in School and I felt I lived and understood everything with Sophie and the philosophers…plus I was always in the front seats in philosophy classes in school. So I am really happy to meet this community and all of you eventhough i discovered my passion not a a very early age.

      Very Happy 😀

    • Shahid

      Member
      2 March 2021 at 22:16
      0 NTL Score

      Hi Rosa,

      I am very fascinated by your intro!

      The part where you mentioned “Quoted below” is so resonating to me 🙂

      Quote:
      While traveling you were paying attention to the world and people around you and how you mixed with them and there is a lot to learn and adjust in yourself.

      Of course, there is so much to learn in this life and one should always keep learning and adapting that is what human evolution is about.

      I am so glad to be part of this community! Hoping for the best :)✌

  • Maarten Vergouwen

    Member
    20 March 2020 at 14:45
    0 NTL Score

    Hello Black Sheep, I am happy to join you. I’m living in the nice town of Deventer. I work(ed) in the field of government communications. I used to say I have the Cassandra Complex. Cassandra being the daughter of King Priam of Troy and Queen Hecuba, a prophetic seer that lacked the power of persuasion (wrath of the Gods, she must have done something terrible in the eyes of the gods!). She could see the future – the Greeks come and they will win the war! – and … was never believed. I learned better timing. I learned being patient. However at this moment I am changing my profession from communication specialist to foot reflexology therapist. Maybe partly, maybe 100%, I don’t know yet. Keep an open mind about that.

    • Bart Driessen

      Member
      20 March 2020 at 14:48
      4 NTL Score

      Hi @Maarten, becoming more patient is something I’m still working on. And at the same time I don’t want to fully give up. Every bad side of a character is always a good side as well.

      What made you change from communications to foot reflexology?

    • Rosa Calandra

      Member
      23 March 2020 at 13:21
      1123 NTL Score

      Dear Maarten, so glad to have you here 🙂

      Thank you also for your introduction, I am repeating myself that we really have brilliant people in the community, and it’s a pleasure knowing your stories and whatever you FEEL to share with us.

      An interesting point from me: learn to be patient…Still working on that. Yoga helps tho 🙂

      Maarten, keep an open mind and please give us some tips on how to work & improve patience, it will be formidable 🙂

    • Shreya Raj

      Member
      30 May 2021 at 11:06
      99 NTL Score

      @communications im so glad reading this. all good wishes from India.

  • Maarten Vergouwen

    Member
    20 March 2020 at 16:50
    0 NTL Score

    @Bart Hi Bart, I could very much relate to the second alinea in your welcome text. I recognize being two steps ahead always and not having the patience to wait for others to get there as well, if ever. To answer your question, first: I am often reluctant to say I am a communication specialist because I mostly disagree to the priorities set by communication departments. Sometimes I think my field of study should not have the title ‘Communication’ but instead ‘How not to communicate’. I was always hired by project managers because they felt the same way about their indoor communication colleagues as I do ;-). I need to say there are exceptions. But nowadays it is getting much harder to get contracts direct from project managers. Most governments have centralized their hiring process. Second: I am a mind-person, or maybe I think I am. Lately I have thoughts I might flourish more in one-to-one relations not having to do with competing who is the smartest, know what I mean. And I’ve been active in energy-work for over a decade. All of this is under personal investigation right now. You can say I’m in transition.

    I am inspired by the work you did and do. Any thoughts in your head on a new initiative or interactive product in case of pandemics?

  • Bart Driessen

    Member
    20 March 2020 at 17:00
    4 NTL Score

    So often I wondered about those communication people you talk about… Why are they there, what are they contributing? And often did I say: just wipe out these communication departments and make communication integral part of whatever is happening.

    Do I have plans to assist at the current situation? There is so many great solutions out there, for remote collaboration and remote learning. I’d love to help getting things in the air if organisations are struggling. And while doing that, I’d probably recognize ways to improve things. The best way for me to come up with ideas is to be in the middle of something.

  • Maarten Vergouwen

    Member
    20 March 2020 at 17:19
    0 NTL Score

    We are very much alike in this. I like to jump on riding trains (not literally) and as it moves ahead look for smart adjustments in the proces. I once designed an interactive website in the pre-facebook time, while working for law enforcement / environmental permits. Hard to sell, because, well, “We want to be transparent, but this is way too much transparency”. To implement such a product communication departments had to loosen control and that is the last thing they wanted to do. And foremost: they might discover they are redundant in the exchange process. Enough of this. Stay healthy, I am going to walk the dog.

  • Irene Poppelier

    Member
    23 March 2020 at 12:25
    2 NTL Score

    A place where I can speak my mind? Engage with people with beautiful new ideas (even though they might be out of the box)? Learn from complete strangers, and perhaps even befriend them?

    Yes please!

    My name is Irene Poppelier, and probably like for all of you, it’s time for change for me too. In my case that means: step out of my comfort zone. I thought about this for quite some time now, and I guess that’s what’s in this community for me: to loose the constant awareness of what others might think. To value myself, and my ideas.

    For a long time I thought I wasn’t a black sheep. And I’m still not totally convinced that I am, because I don’t see my ideas as ‘groundbreaking’. But in conversations with others, I do feel a fear of not being able to properly bring across my point of view. And as a result, I don’t speak at all. Or I nod at what the other one has to say. And the crazy thing is: I’m not even a shy girl!

    So this has to end. Right here. Right now. Because not having the confidence to say what has to be said, kind of makes you a black sheep.

    I’ve been working with Minke for some time now as her graphic designer. The way she just does what she feels like she has to do, is inspiring to say the least. It’s been great watching her design this community. She has been a teacher in the way she acts. So now it’s time for me to follow her lead. Because I’m convinced that it cleares my head to speak my mind.

    In this community I’ll speak my mind. Promiss.

  • Oroosa Anwar

    Member
    2 April 2020 at 10:35
    0 NTL Score

    Hi everyone!

    I am Oroosa, the science drop-out, and arts lover.

    As a student of literature, I have come across both eye-opening and eye-rolling works. And I love my subject.

    But I have problems. I get bored easily. I don’t like routines, I love multitasking (in your face, Plato), and I don’t know what to do with my life because my creative energy cannot keep up with conventional professions. I hate living and dying a boring woman.

    The country where I hail from – India – has stupid cultural practices and a strictly disciplinary job-oriented education system. My interests and skill in various domains make it difficult for me to adjust to the monotony I’m being forced to follow right now.

    I want a thread to gather and tie my interests together, but they’re so diverse that I am afraid to let even a single one go.

    I also want to do something to combat the close-mindedness of my culture. The prevailing misogyny and misinterpretation of religion for the benefit of men are gut-wrenching where I live. I am not a hater of the male species, mind you, I just don’t like how women in my society have no self-respect and have been conditioned to believe that such a thing does not exist for them.

    So yeah, I am very angry. And frustrated.

    I want to change what’s going around me, but I don’t know what to do.

    I apologise if I sound like the generic millennial right now (although there’s nothing wrong with being one), but people often mistake creativity and/or frustration with immaturity. But that’s not why we’re here, right? To misunderstand and judge?

    • Bart Driessen

      Member
      2 April 2020 at 15:21
      4 NTL Score

      I can understand the anger and frustration! Easily bored, don’t like routines, its something that is recognized among the black sheep, I’m sure. I have lived in India for a few months, enough to have seen the misogyny. And to have seen that women hardly ever feel safe, let alone feel to have equal opportunities.

      It’s hard to find ways to make changes, find your way in the world, but I hope you can bend the anger into energy that helps you do it. I hope that this community can help you!

      • Oroosa Anwar

        Member
        11 June 2020 at 14:42
        0 NTL Score

        Hi Bart,

        Thank you for your kind and understanding words. If you’ve been to India then I’m sure you understand how unsafe and underprivileged I feel here, given my gender and religious background. Nevertheless, I persevere.

        It feels great to engage with like-minded people on this platform!

  • Maarten Vergouwen

    Member
    3 April 2020 at 10:21
    0 NTL Score

    @Irene Welcome, Irene. Be free to speak your mind. Sometimes your intuition tells you something is not alright, but it is hard to pinpoint what it is exactly that makes you feel uncomfortable (with an idea, a statement). Speaking out is the thing to do. Make your uneasy feeling a shared concern as it is. Just put it on the table and see what happens. As a designer you know all about balance and about pieces of the puzzle that should be in place. You can apply your sense of beauty and balance on discussions and concepts as well. Good luck with that.

    • Irene Poppelier

      Member
      3 April 2020 at 13:58
      2 NTL Score

      @Communications Thanks for replying, very well said. And I know you’re right! What I do quite often, is starting my statement with an introduction that ‘softens the blow’. My next step is to leave that behind as well, and just see what happens. The good thing is that within this community and the team, I feel a lot less hesitant to say what’s on my mind because I know that’s what we’re here for. So let’s go!

      • Minke Tromp

        Administrator
        22 April 2020 at 16:38
        930 NTL Score

        Your humor @Irene also helps. In fact that goes for both of you. @Maarten, I think you find that too right? That you notice within the group how that works?

  • François La Haye

    Member
    21 April 2020 at 18:06
    1 NTL Score

    Hello, Hello, Hello.

    Thanks for inviting me to this community. So I have no Idea how to start of how to start this intro so I will use my confusion to start writing and let’s see where I end up.

    Let’s talk about a recent scuffle I had, I was talking with someone who considers themselves enlightened who was saying how people enjoying the comforts of western life are all exploiters and guilty of exploiting and coronavirus was a reckoning. To which I “kindly” pointed out that most victims were old people and that most people just want live their lives and how being enlightened on the fringes of society might not give one the right to judge people. It was a very “polite” exchange obviously. But I think that is one strong character trait I have which I’m trying to work on. People who are too convinced about anything deserved to be DESTROYED. Sorry I mean whenever I see people convinced (what some would call lazyness of mind, not me, I’m cool) I’m such a nice person that I question their opinions and see if they hold up and if they need to adapt. It’s so nice when someone does that right?

    So yeah, I would say that makes me a black sheep.

    IT’S LIST TIME! I do/did about a lot of things but the most important are: Data guy (data science or BI, looking for a job actually…), Masters in Commercial engineering, Musician (play nine instruments, mostly jazz but I’m eclectic), wrote 3 manuscripts (which i should start editing), I do improv theater (also normal acting), I have my own podcast (come on, black sheep might like it, freeflow craziness), Certified NLP Coach, Been meditating for 10 years, did martial arts (currently boxing), love traveling, watch movies, love cats, etc.

    So why am I here? I suck at selling myself whenever I get the dread question “What do you do?” It seems everyone who gets to know me deeply is like “You have so much potential” but I just can’t seem to exploit it. (Help me black sheep community)

    It feels like this is becoming too long so thanks for reading this non-edited text. And if you want more information? Contact me. I don’t bite, but when I do, I bite nicely.Kissing Heart

    • Minke Tromp

      Administrator
      22 April 2020 at 16:37
      930 NTL Score

      Dear Francois, thank you for your beautiful intro! Packed with self-awareness, humor and invitations. I’m looking forward to have you in the Story Telling Course next week!

  • Vicky Saranton

    Member
    22 April 2020 at 18:43
    0 NTL Score

    Hello Minke, hello everybody.

    I still can’t believe that a community with the name “Black Sheep” exists. I find it genius and very innovative. At the same time, relieving and liberating.

    I have been a black sheep, initially in my family, later in my culture, now in my new country (I will explain below), and that’s the belief that will follow me forever, I think. The difference is that now I/we don’t need that negative connotation around the title of “black sheep”. We can own that title and be proud of that. We can even thrive because of that.

    I am telling you that without being there 100%. I am currently working a lot on that and trying to get out of my shell and have impact in the world around me. I resonate with the vulnerable, lonely people and I wanna be their voice. I resonate with the traumatised, wounded people and I wanna help them heal.

    I come from Greece and I live in the Netherlands for the past 7 years. I am a psychologist and I want to bring more awareness on mental health around me, I want to help people own their stories, I want to show people what a wonderful journey therapy is where you get to know yourself and accept who you are.

    The reason that I said that I still feel like the black sheep here is because I am an expat, I don’t speak the language, and I have all these beautiful things that I want to offer around me but then I stop myself saying “Who do you think you are? You don’t belong here. They are not going to listen to you.”

    I am an ambassador of anti-loneliness, because for me loneliness means feeling ostracised, an outcast, different, not belonging, and that is a pervasive, deeply rooted feeling that defines all we do. And defeating loneliness sometimes means embracing it; embracing your differences and see the treasure in them.

    Here I am trying to own my Black-Sheepness. It is the one that got me where I am today, very close to the life I have always wanted to live, with the people that I wanted to have.

    It is the one that brought me here in this group today.

    Thank you, Minke, thank you all!

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